There's no problem with planning your future, but I've watched SEVERAL people obsess over a wedding before there's even a potential groom in the picture. Here's the problem with that-- the focus is obviously on the bride and the fun of getting married and not actually the marriage. Part of the reason why I don't care about and would opt out of having a wedding is because of where my focus lies. I'm more concerned about having the right mate and not the perfect dress, flowers,