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4 Dating Turn-offs You May Be Guilty Of

There's something everyone does that can be considered a turn off. Most of the time, we're not even aware that we're doing these things. I can admit that I'm not a perfect date, so I'll share some of the dating turn offs I'm guilty of ...and some I've seen in action (because I know you're an awesome date and don't do any of these things). Here are 4 dating turn-offs you should be sure to avoid in order to make it to the next date.

Too much phone

Girl. If you're like me, you're ATTACHED to your phone to the point of near dependency. It's an embarrassing confession, but I do everything on my phone and have several reminders in my phone (because my brain just isn't what it used to be). However, if you're on a date, it's your time to discover this new person and really see if you're compatible. Don't blow your shot! Instagram and Twitter will be there when your date is over. Take time to listen to what he's telling you about himself. Ask questions. You never know what you may find out. You'll also be leading by example. Do you really want HIM more interested in his phone then you? Put your phone on silent and drop it in the bottom of your purse so you won't be tempted to check it periodically.

Extravagant orders

Sis, just because he's paying doesn't mean you can order gazelle shoulder (because I'm sure that would be expensive if it was a thing). Follow his lead on ordering your food. Either order in the same price point or less. You don't have to put the squeeze on his pockets or make him "prove he's a provider" by ordering the most expensive thing on the menu. This is RUDE and definitely teeters around the gold digger neighborhood. A date is never the time to test a man's ability to financially secure you. Keep it simple and compatible to his order... nothing more!

Being rude to waiters/servers

This just says a lot about your character. How you treat people that are required to serve you shows the type of person you are. One of my biggest pet peeves is someone who is intentionally rude or nasty to servers because they can't do/say anything back. It literally BURNS me when I see this, and I immediately believe that the person has flawed character that just cannot be fixed. Anytime I saw this on a date, that was our LAST date and conversation was done on every level. I know a red flag when I see one and someone that does this has got REAL issues!

Going too in depth about your ex

Speaking of red flags... this is a capital red flag! Going in depth about your ex unsolicited shows that you have unresolved feelings for that ex. If you're guilty of this, you probably shouldn't be dating just yet. If your date is doing it, you should proceed with caution or just give them time to work that out. Exes happen, and nobody is judging you for it, but when you're not quite over them, it could lead to doubling back or not being able to fully connect with a new person.

If you've found things on this list that you are guilty of, it doesn't mean you CAN'T date, you just have some things to work on. Be very aware of your problem areas and explore things that I may not have listed. Date better and feel better.

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