This is one of those topics where you’re going to want to shoot the messenger. Two things: I’m still going to keep it real and I’m bullet proof. (just kidding) But seriously, we all have those relationship dynamics that we think are perfectly normal that “everyone goes through”. Unfortunately, some of us have been making excuses for toxic relationship practices with our acceptance of these dynamics. Have you been supporting toxic romantic dynamics in your relationships? If yo

When a woman announces that she’s planning to have a “hot girl summer” (HGS), most men interpret that as her freely sleeping with any man she wants (with no remorse). Typical. While the thought of a woman owning her sexuality may sound threatening to the fragile male ego… that’s not what a hot girl summer is about. There’s much more to it. I would say a hot girl summer is a necessity—a reset of inner power. The coiner of the phrase, Megan Thee Stallion, even said it’s about “

You know that phase when you first start dating someone and EVERYTHING about them is interesting and amazing? You know… that point early in the relationship where you love EVERYTHING about each other? Yes… the glorious honeymoon phase is what I’m talking about. I’m going to tell you what you really should tell your partner during this phase and it just may save your relationship later. Curious? Keep reading. It’s not enough to keep chasing the honeymoon phase of your relation

Pretty teeth. Nice hair. Strong jawline. A beard that connects. We typically have a mostly vain list of what we’re looking for in a man, but what is it that we really NEED? Is the reason you haven’t found the right match because you’re looking for all the wrong things? That could definitely be a possibility. The real question is: What SHOULD you be looking for? While I don’t know your personal needs, I can give you a starting point with 6 characteristics you should look for i

It’s possible to land a date, go out, and get NO callback. The dating world is extremely fickle right now and while petty has been a characteristic heavily thrown on women, men have joined the party. I would say that men are JUST as petty as the women now and THAT means one wrong move on a date and you could be permanently dismissed. I have mixed emotions about this, but I also don’t want you jeopardizing a potential connection by doing any of these 5 things on a date (or in

Some of us can talk ourselves out of a GOOD man. I mean… easily. It’s probably automatic for the chronic skeptics. When you think about it, it’s actually pretty sad. A guy can be doing almost everything right and our gut reaction is to wonder “who sent him” or try to pick him apart to find out what’s “wrong” with him (because there’s gotta be something, right?). Life has taught too many of us to be super skeptics in the love department. While it’s not entirely your fault as a

Everybody’s not amazing at getting out there and meeting new people. Some career-driven people are actually pretty terrible at it. As a result of that, a lot of singles have resorted to online dating as a way of meeting their potential spouse (or maybe someone to have fun with temporarily). Either way, if you’ve created a dating profile, the goal is to peak someone’s interest. The last thing you want to do is put a word or phrase that screams red flag to the person viewing yo

Self-reflection is hard. (…especially when it leads to the conclusion that YOU have been in your own way) No matter how hard it may be; self-reflection is necessary and required more often for some people. If you’ve found that all your relationships have gone up in flames or somehow fizzled out before they could really mature, self-reflection may just be the next logical step in figuring out how to exist in a relationship. While relationships aren’t for everybody, if you’re l

So, you’re in the boat with most of the world and you have an ex that cheated. Sadly, it’s more common than not, but it’s also common to wonder if you did something to help the cheating along. First, let me just say it’s NEVER your fault when someone else cheats on you. Let’s start there. We can do everything right, but if you’re dating a cheater, they’re still going to cheat. This is not about preventing them from cheating, but more about highlighting ways we probably made i

Alright. I’ll try not to make this a weirdo energy vibe post, BUT I’ll have my moments and you’ll still love me for them. With that being said, we’ve all (or maybe it’s just me) had an unfortunate situation in which we’ve found ourselves with an unwanted soul tie. What’s a soul tie? It’s what happens when you stay in a relationship with someone for a while or when you allow yourself to physically connect deeply with a person. It’s the conjoining of the soul indefinitely. You

Everybody wants to believe that they are the most flawless partner on this side of heaven, but face it—we all have our flaws. It can be tough to hear criticism about ourselves (no matter how constructive it is). Most of us instantly put up walls and refuse to receive any message that isn’t a glowing review. If that sounds like you, sis… you’re hustling backward! You should WANT to hear how you can self-improve (not for anyone else, but you). No matter how whiny it may come of

One of the hardest things about planning a date on Valentine’s day is figuring out a place that’s not going to be JAM PACKED. Everybody buys into the day and pushes the issue of going out “showing” their love. (Don’t worry I’m lumped right into that massive group of people.) Every year I try to think of something other than typical restaurants and cliché dates where we may have a chance of getting in and out in a decent hour. Since I’m not selfish, I’ll share the wealth and g

It’s such a romantic thought to have a man that knows EVERYTHING about you. On the surface, it seems like it would be a dream come true, but let me just tell you: you really just want a guy that’s observant. While it may seem cute to have a boyfriend that remembers every detail of your schedule and can tell you exactly what you wore on your first date 2 years ago, it’s not the way to go, sis. Heed my words and let me give you 6 reasons why you should just be happy with him be

You know how jobs want you to do the work of the next level for a while before they give you the promotion? Well, a lot of men are like that too. Somehow, it’s easier for us to start looking for a better job and/or tell the job to kiss it than it is for us to do with our significant others. It’s completely understandable. There are no emotional ties to our jobs (for the most part) and it’s easier to see the benefits of going elsewhere. With our men it’s a different ball game

What does your body language say about you right this second? Are you slouched on your favorite couch eating ice cream while reading or are you sitting tall on a bar stool in your favorite café? Whatever your position, your body language is speaking for you (to people who may or may not know you). You could be repelling the man of your dreams right now with your posture alone! (Crazy thought, right?) Make sure you’re sending the right message with the 5 tips below. Power pose

There's something everyone does that can be considered a turn off. Most of the time, we're not even aware that we're doing these things. I can admit that I'm not a perfect date, so I'll share some of the dating turn offs I'm guilty of ...and some I've seen in action (because I know you're an awesome date and don't do any of these things). Here are 4 dating turn-offs you should be sure to avoid in order to make it to the next date. Too much phone Girl. If you're like me, you'r

A new year is approaching and many of us have already made promises to ourselves that we may or may not keep. A common promise for singles to make is to date more. To say it is one thing, but there are ways to improve your "dating energy" so that you can keep your promise. It's not enough to just say it. You must execute! Here are 6 ways to improve your dating energy and land those dates you deserve in 2019. Don't subscribe to negative generalizations about men. All men are N

First, let me put the disclaimer out there. I'm a walking throwback. I live for 90s/2000s nostalgia, so I'm hoping to trigger a little bit of nostalgia for you. My next disclaimer is obvious or something you already know if you frequent these posts… I’m somewhat of a hopeless romantic. Even when I was a young girl, I was here for these couples (or their stories at least)! I loved them together and maybe even went through a bit of mourning when they broke up (or I mourned thei

The title grabbed your attention because you’re sleeping with someone on this list… I just know it! (…or you just couldn’t take the curiosity) It’s fine, no judgment here. Maybe you’re just reading “for a friend”. *cough cough* I’m just here to make a case for why you (or your friend) should stop jumping bones with the person you thought of when you saw the title. This person has the power to complicate everything for you (or maybe some major part of your life). So, without f