When it’s your time to plan date night, there’s a certain level of pressure involved (if you really care about making the evening special). It’s not ONLY the guy’s job to keep us entertained and to curate new experiences. We must do the same to keep it spicy for him… or at least engaging. If you’re like me, there’s always a creative block lurking around when there’s pressure to plan something amazing for a special someone. The best thing you can do is go back to your roots—the bare basic. Ask yourself these 4 questions to guide your planning.
How much time do you have?
Always be aware of the time you have for the date because you don’t want to OVER plan and run out of the time you need to do everything you’ve planned. Make sure your plans are open enough to account for just under the amount that you have. Also consider your man’s attention span with this. If you know that he’s only good for an hour-long date, don’t plan for two hours. The objective is to make the date enjoyable for him regarding the amount of time spent.
What does he like?
What does he genuinely enjoy? If he likes sports, try to plan a sports themed date. If he likes to be active, try something like rock climbing. You don’t want to plan a whole date around what YOU like. Let it be about him and the date will at least be one of the most memorable for him. This is also a good time to submerge yourself into his interests so that you can possibly find new common interests. You never know what you may find that you like!
What is his love language?
If you’re wondering what the heck I’m talking about, both of you should take the quiz at https://www.5lovelanguages.com/. (Totally not an ad, but I definitely recommend the site…) You’ll learn what he perceives as acts of love. Based on where he lands, you could have a pretty good starting point for what he would enjoy on a date. For example, if his love language is quality time, you’ve hit the jackpot in date planning! Plan something away from the hustle and bustle of life where the two of you can just enjoy each other. If his love language is words of affirmation, write him mushy poems and “perform” them for him in your own little poetry night. (I know I’m a super nerd for that one.)
How does he plan dates for you?
Match his swag. Typically, the way a person plans or shops for their significant other, is how they would like it reciprocated. You can mirror his past dates, but don’t do a complete copy-cat. That would just be boring! When I’m mirroring, I try taking whatever it was to the next level to build on the first positive experience. However, if he’s terrible at date planning, you may have to abandon this tactic completely. There’s no sense in suffering the same terrible date twice, right?
These are great starting points for planning a date night that will knock his socks off. Be thoughtful and creative and I’m sure it will turn out perfect. Happy planning and best of luck!