When it’s your time to plan date night, there’s a certain level of pressure involved (if you really care about making the evening special). It’s not ONLY the guy’s job to keep us entertained and to curate new experiences. We must do the same to keep it spicy for him… or at least engaging. If you’re like me, there’s always a creative block lurking around when there’s pressure to plan something amazing for a special someone. The best thing you can do is go back to your roots—th

It’s possible to land a date, go out, and get NO callback. The dating world is extremely fickle right now and while petty has been a characteristic heavily thrown on women, men have joined the party. I would say that men are JUST as petty as the women now and THAT means one wrong move on a date and you could be permanently dismissed. I have mixed emotions about this, but I also don’t want you jeopardizing a potential connection by doing any of these 5 things on a date (or in

Some of us can talk ourselves out of a GOOD man. I mean… easily. It’s probably automatic for the chronic skeptics. When you think about it, it’s actually pretty sad. A guy can be doing almost everything right and our gut reaction is to wonder “who sent him” or try to pick him apart to find out what’s “wrong” with him (because there’s gotta be something, right?). Life has taught too many of us to be super skeptics in the love department. While it’s not entirely your fault as a

So, you’re in the boat with most of the world and you have an ex that cheated. Sadly, it’s more common than not, but it’s also common to wonder if you did something to help the cheating along. First, let me just say it’s NEVER your fault when someone else cheats on you. Let’s start there. We can do everything right, but if you’re dating a cheater, they’re still going to cheat. This is not about preventing them from cheating, but more about highlighting ways we probably made i

Alright. I’ll try not to make this a weirdo energy vibe post, BUT I’ll have my moments and you’ll still love me for them. With that being said, we’ve all (or maybe it’s just me) had an unfortunate situation in which we’ve found ourselves with an unwanted soul tie. What’s a soul tie? It’s what happens when you stay in a relationship with someone for a while or when you allow yourself to physically connect deeply with a person. It’s the conjoining of the soul indefinitely. You

Everybody wants to believe that they are the most flawless partner on this side of heaven, but face it—we all have our flaws. It can be tough to hear criticism about ourselves (no matter how constructive it is). Most of us instantly put up walls and refuse to receive any message that isn’t a glowing review. If that sounds like you, sis… you’re hustling backward! You should WANT to hear how you can self-improve (not for anyone else, but you). No matter how whiny it may come of

It’s such a romantic thought to have a man that knows EVERYTHING about you. On the surface, it seems like it would be a dream come true, but let me just tell you: you really just want a guy that’s observant. While it may seem cute to have a boyfriend that remembers every detail of your schedule and can tell you exactly what you wore on your first date 2 years ago, it’s not the way to go, sis. Heed my words and let me give you 6 reasons why you should just be happy with him be

You know how jobs want you to do the work of the next level for a while before they give you the promotion? Well, a lot of men are like that too. Somehow, it’s easier for us to start looking for a better job and/or tell the job to kiss it than it is for us to do with our significant others. It’s completely understandable. There are no emotional ties to our jobs (for the most part) and it’s easier to see the benefits of going elsewhere. With our men it’s a different ball game

Have you ever been in a situation where it feels like no matter how amazing you try to be to a man, he won’t commit? Most of us have lived some version of this or have seen it happen to someone close. The truth of the matter is, if he’s a noncommittal person, there’s nothing you can do to change that. He is who he is. While that may sound simple enough, a lot of us just won’t give up. If you’re like me and HATE to have regrets, you hold on well past the relationship’s expirat

In the spirit of spooktacular scariness, I figured I’d give you a list of scary things to raise the hair on the back of your neck (or maybe just your blood pressure). There are so many reasons or factors that contribute to a break-up and they’re not always pretty. In fact, some of them are downright scary. With that being said, here’s my list of top 10 scariest reasons to break-up. (in no particular order) He has a baby on the way. This has GOT to be a woman’s worst nightmare

Moms are tough. Most of us know that from dealing with our own moms our entire lives, but it’s a different monster when you have to deal with someone else’s mom. Add a romantic capacity and it’s a super ‘eggshell walk’ (if she just so happens not to like you). While you may be tempted to try being someone completely different from who you are—don’t. There are ways to win her over (or at least get her to be cordial) without changing who you are. None of these ways include gett

It’s easy to get frustrated when you aren’t romantically progressing at the speed of your choosing. Maybe you’ve been less than forward in an attempt to “play it cool” and not be a nag. Maybe your signals are just completely off and the message you’re sending doesn’t match your true feelings. Whatever the case, he doesn’t know that you’re ready to move to the next level because you’re sending the wrong signals or worse—no signals at all. There’s no way to be sure that “signal

They say you have to take a few losses (Ls) to get a win. (Never mind who “they” are.) The saying may be true, but the lines get blurry when you’re taking Ls at the hands of your potential partner. It’s not like we’re a generation of hopeless romantics, but somehow, we think that long-suffering seals the deal in relationships. There are certain things that you may have to compromise, but there are also some things that should be non-negotiable! Check out my list of 9 Ls you s

It’s hard out here for us women with actual standards. (Well that was harsh… but true.) I’m not even talking about the super high unattainable standards. We’re talking about the common decency standards with a few additives. Some of us want someone to match our education levels while others are fine with someone that matches our financial level. We’ve been reaching for the stars personally and we just want someone to compliment our achievements. Not too much to ask, right? Of

We try all we know how to make our men meet us half-way (regarding effort put into the relationship). Sometimes we’re successful and other times we aren’t. In those instances that we aren’t successful, we’re left wondering what more we can do or if we should just match his energy and call it a day. The petty in me enjoys energy matching because people are typically shocked (and maybe even a little offended) when you match their energy. While it can come off as petty, sometime

I used to love the idea of a bad boy (for me more like the "cool" guy). The good guys just came off as super LAME or weird to me. Was it just me? Before you judge and sentence me to a lifetime of heartache and conjugal visits, I learned the err of my ways as I became a “more mature” woman. (I’m literally 31 and feeling “old” lately, so ignore my dramatics.) Anyway, things changed as we got older and some of us remapped our futures setting ourselves up for success. If you’re s

Guess what? The percentage of men in our age group that are date-worthy are also probably in our same tax bracket. That means their pockets probably look very similar to ours and be honest… YOU’RE not even taking YOURSELF out on expensive dates every time you go out. Sometimes we hold standards for our potential partners that WE can’t even meet, but it’s time to put things in perspective. Here are 5 reasons why you should appreciate “cheap” dates and stop expecting limo rides

Have you been told that you are too much to deal with? Sis... you're probably not, but that statement has probably caused you to not be yourself in new relationship situations. How can he fall in love with you if you're not being YOU? While I won’t encourage you to be difficult just for the heck of it, altering your personality to be more appealing to a potential partner is just not the way to go. For the right guy, your strong personality will just be a part of you that he a

Men don’t take relationship advice. Well, most of them don’t. You can send all the blog posts and articles you want (to drop hints) and it will still go over their heads. Even memes get ignored. The truth is, they aren’t going to apply the techniques or principles in these posts unless it’s tied to something they really want, or are interested in (you know where this is going). They need incentive to do/be better. It’s pretty much human nature for this to be the case, so we w