Are you the "frog" in your relationship?



Let's face it. It's hard to admit that we aren't completely and totally awesome from time to time, but if you find yourself constantly kissing frogs-- maybe the problem is you. Now before you start throwing tomatoes and booing, hear me out.

If you find yourself attracting the same type of significant other, it's time for you to think outside the box. Let's cover a few things here. If you meet your significant other in the club, you technically shouldn't take issue with the fact that they love to go out. The same goes if you met them in a bar. Don't take issue with them drinking later. Within reason, these things are to be expected. Does that mean you are to accept what you don't like in a mate? No. It means you can avoid putting yourself in the position to have to make the decision. Becoming a "nag" for those things that are expected based on the circumstances of how you met, qualifies you as a "frog" in a sense. You presented yourself to be falsely compatible initially and down the road, things aren't great because you were hoping something about one or both of you would change.

Another example of how you could possibly be the frog in your relationship is within your expectations for your mates personality. So, not many people actually seek out the quirky, not so smooth, slightly socially challenged mate. The truth is, that may be the one for you. Most people are going to go after the "smooth operator"-- the one that always knows just what to say and moves just right, etc. However, that's not everyone's match. So if you've tried it out with the "smooth operator" a few times over and you've watched them smoothly operate themselves into and out of your life seamlessly, another tactic is in order.

Think outside the box on the next go round and work on being honest with yourself before entering a new relationship. The only thing worse than kissing a frog is being one.

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