At some point we’ve all found ourselves holding on to a relationship because we know what it COULD be (never mind what it is in the moment). Potential—the most dangerous motivation to stay in a relationship. So, here’s how it happens… we get with a guy and he’s a little rough around the edges, but he shows effort. He’s working on perfecting his craft, starting a business, getting his credit right, or just turning his life around in general… and it’s music to our romantic litt

I'll openly admit that music has been and always will be my anti-drug. (Remember those anti-drug campaigns from years ago?) When I need to sort out my feelings or just find the words to describe a situation, I turn to music. Whether I'm listening or just writing, lyrics have a way of connecting with a person's heart. It's not far-fetched to say that lyrics can shape expectations and perceptions in relationships. Love songs are the best at doing this, but sometimes we can get

Just typing the title of this post alone has me flinching as if one of my aunts is behind me about to slap the back of my head. I grew up in a very religious family and they drilled Bible verses about relationships and everything else into my head. The one that sticks out the most says, "the man that finds a wife, finds a good thing"... (with major emphasis on FINDS... as in he finds you). I have been hearing this verse from them for as long as I could even think about maybe

We need to talk. (Don't you just hate that phrase?) No, but seriously we do. If you're ready to get on the dating scene and have been using social media profiles/dating sites to make possible connections, pay close attention. Your profile can either get you a great catch or a terrible experience. We're leaning towards a great catch, right? Here are a few things to tweak if you plan to try making a love connection via social media. Profile Picture Do you have one of those clea

It's true. EVERYBODY comes with baggage, but how much is too much? I'm honestly a patient and mostly objective person (which helps me to be understanding of a person's baggage). However, I have to set limitations to the amount and intensity. Like... are we talking carry-on or are we talking multiple checked bags? (no... seriously) I think I can handle a carry-on and a checked bag worth of baggage. What does that mean? If you have some residual effects from a previous relation

When I posted this picture on Instagram, it had already spoken to me, but it seemed to strike a nerve with a few of my followers. The overall message was meant to be encouraging to those who just got over a bad break-up with a person that was clearly all wrong for them. The issue, however, is the time between the "mistake of your life" and the "love of your life". I think it's safe to say that it's not immediately after a horrible breakup, someone comes to heal the pain and m

"It's either me or social media!"- So this must be the new age ultimatum. I've heard it so many times. I know it gets annoying to hear people talk about how "the new generation" has all these problems that our parents didn't have, but some of it has some validity. We tend to live microwave ready lives because as time goes by, things become more convenient and essentially readily available. Why not take advantage of convenience? Physical social interaction has been semi-replac

It never fails. As the holiday season approaches, you see some people scrounging to secure a "bae" or in this case... holibae. It can be a little lonely attending holiday parties and family events without some arm candy. For those that care about what others think, it can be stressful to say the least! Whatever the motive, here are 5 reasons why I'm not judging you. 1. The holidays can be SUPER lonely without a companion. The few times I got stuck at school for the holidays b

So, I watched Rob and Chyna tonight and it really made me realize something very important about relationships. Before you start to judge me, hear me out. It may seem like common sense to say that if you are damaged, you won't be functional in a relationship, but it's deeper than that. When you have deep-set self image issues that go untreated, you take it into your relationship and deflect it onto your partner. Rob is dealing with serious self-image issues because he wants t

So we've all seen the celebrity couple pictures where both people look absolutely flawless. Or we see the picture of matching Rolexes, Jordans, etc. Let's not forget the screenshots and videos that highlight extravagant gifts for someone's significant other. There's absolutely nothing wrong with any of this, BUT the common trend in the comment section of these posts is the heart eyes and ring emoji followed by the hashtag "relationship goals". I've noticed that the focus has