Everybody’s not amazing at getting out there and meeting new people. Some career-driven people are actually pretty terrible at it. As a result of that, a lot of singles have resorted to online dating as a way of meeting their potential spouse (or maybe someone to have fun with temporarily). Either way, if you’ve created a dating profile, the goal is to peak someone’s interest. The last thing you want to do is put a word or phrase that screams red flag to the person viewing yo

It’s the first date which means both of you made it past what may have been a grueling screening process. Congrats, but now it’s time to get down to “serious business”. It’s not enough to just make it on the date. You must have some level of chemistry or gift of gab to get to the next level. While some people are quiet and awkward on the first date, others can be downright chatty (in all the wrong ways). I’ve compiled a list of 6 very telling questions to ask when you’re tryi

We’ve all been in denial about an ex at some point, but sometimes our hopes and dreams can go a little too far after the fact. You REALLY wanted it to work and now you’re stuck on coulda woulda shouldas. We’ve all been there. We had to give up perfect families (including children we’d created in our heads). Confession: I literally mourned the loss of a potential child with an ex, once we broke up (borderline crazy, I know). We get just that invested, so it’s only natural to h

So, you made it past the awkward introductions (whether it was in the DMs or in person). Congratulations! That’s already an achievement. Now, you’ve had time to possibly forget how the guy looks (is it just me?), question your judgment, AND/OR question why he’s into you. If you’re like most women (including myself) anxiety is setting in. You’re not sure what to expect or if this date is even going to be worth your time. At this point, you’ve GOT to find a way to calm your pre

Once a cheater, always a cheater. That’s probably an unfair mantra, but for someone who’s been hurt or heartbroken from cheating, it’s a defense mechanism (one I don’t use, but hey…). One of the first questions I ask when getting to know a new guy is if he’s ever cheated on someone before. If he answers, “yes”, it’s not a deal breaker, but I do have follow-up questions. I need to know details about when it happened and the circumstances around the situation. (This is to get i

The first step in getting pursued by a guy is catching his attention. Some of us are better at it than others and some of us need near divine intervention to be noticed. (I‘m somewhere close to the latter.) It doesn’t mean we aren’t attractive, we just lack the skill to “get noticed”. There are some of us that take matters into our own hands and “do the most” to get attention. For those of us that have resorted to drastic measures, I’ve put together a list of 11 things that a

Millennials get blamed for everything… sometimes rightly so. In this case, it’s not entirely our fault. Think about it, we (because I’m a millennial too) were the first generation to integrate computers (more so the internet) into our daily lives. We were comfortable in chat rooms oversharing and potentially meeting people offline to “hangout”. (Admit it, we were all dangerously close to being on an episode of “To Catch a Predator”). This was our norm growing up and it’s tric

One of THE most annoying things about online dating is dealing with the pervs (perverts- for anyone who didn’t know). Guys tend to be more forward/perverted online and on apps (probably because you can’t reach them to slap the fire out of them). For someone who’s taking online dating seriously and looking for more than a hook-up, this can be annoying and maybe even discouraging. It’s even worse if perv advances are the ONLY advances you seem to be getting on your profile. Thi

We’ve all done it. (Lurked, that is.) I’ll explain for those who aren’t familiar with this terminology. Lurking is basically snooping on someone’s page and not engaging with any of their posts to find out information or just to be nosy. And yes… everybody’s done it at some point. You start off on your ex’s page and the next thing you know you’re on his new girlfriend’s, son’s, paternal grandmother’s page and you’re stuck in a rabbit hole of sorts wondering how you got there.

Honestly, there are so many stereotypes about millennials that I'm starting to lose track. We're seen as the spoiled generation that wants everything immediately and we don't want to work for it. (That's the general gist of it.) Maybe there are some in our generation like that, but a few bad apples don't spoil the bunch, right? There are even some within the generation that are guilty of believing the stereotypes themselves. When it comes to dating, it seems that millennials

On this new dating scene, more and more people are turning to apps and websites for unconventional ways of meeting people. Because of this, the apps and websites are forced to compete and come up with more innovative ways to become the preference of the masses. The other night I was watching TV and a commercial for a popular dating app came on. (I won't be specific so it doesn't come off as me denouncing their innovative addition.) I'm assuming that the service was going for

Let's face it... cheaters suck. They're selfish and sometimes sociopaths, but this post isn't about them. It's about their victims. It's so easy to give up on the dating game or simply not be able to jump back into it after dating a cheater. It seems they go on with their lives as usual and their victims have to figure out how to love and trust again. Unfortunately, this is pretty much true. There are several factors that play a role in this delay, but in order to get over th

As time passes, the dating scene adapts to trends and new capabilities. Everything is right at your fingertips, but so out of touch. There are so many new mechanisms for dating. Shows, songs, and other forms of entertainment tout open options and not placing oneself in a box-- to the point of all but encouraging infidelity. (I talk about the culture of infidelity here which goes hand in hand with commitaphobe culture). Even childcare centers encourage fluid options when it co

We need to talk. (Don't you just hate that phrase?) No, but seriously we do. If you're ready to get on the dating scene and have been using social media profiles/dating sites to make possible connections, pay close attention. Your profile can either get you a great catch or a terrible experience. We're leaning towards a great catch, right? Here are a few things to tweak if you plan to try making a love connection via social media. Profile Picture Do you have one of those clea

I recently had a conversation with one of my followers about the lack of available men in her area. Her issue is a common one among women everywhere. I started offering her new techniques and figured I'd share with the group. When it seems that the dating pool in your location is dry, you may just have to get creative to get "discovered". Think outside the box and start going where you haven't been or engaging with people at locations where you typically don't. Here's my list