Now, I usually refuse to publicly “go up” for a couple, but there’s something I love about Toya Wright and Robert “Red” Rushing (and it’s not just their adorable baby, Reign… love her). They just seem to FIT. Ya, know? That’s also probably why I’m celebrating their engagement like Toya is my big cousin. I’m genuinely happy for the good sis. I was originally introduced to her when her and Tiny stepped onto the scene with their own show. We had ALL the questions at first, but t

This is one of those topics where you’re going to want to shoot the messenger. Two things: I’m still going to keep it real and I’m bullet proof. (just kidding) But seriously, we all have those relationship dynamics that we think are perfectly normal that “everyone goes through”. Unfortunately, some of us have been making excuses for toxic relationship practices with our acceptance of these dynamics. Have you been supporting toxic romantic dynamics in your relationships? If yo

I am and will ALWAYS be the most prude person around when it comes to open relationships, swinging, throuples, threesomes, etc. I DON’T WANT TO SHARE… and that’s it. Things are seriously shifting in the dating world and people are tolerating what used to be radical takes on dating and relationships. To each there own, but if you’re willing to be a part of a throuple, threesome, or any other open arrangement that involves more than just you and one partner, read this closely!

Everybody wants to believe that they are the most flawless partner on this side of heaven, but face it—we all have our flaws. It can be tough to hear criticism about ourselves (no matter how constructive it is). Most of us instantly put up walls and refuse to receive any message that isn’t a glowing review. If that sounds like you, sis… you’re hustling backward! You should WANT to hear how you can self-improve (not for anyone else, but you). No matter how whiny it may come of

It’s such a romantic thought to have a man that knows EVERYTHING about you. On the surface, it seems like it would be a dream come true, but let me just tell you: you really just want a guy that’s observant. While it may seem cute to have a boyfriend that remembers every detail of your schedule and can tell you exactly what you wore on your first date 2 years ago, it’s not the way to go, sis. Heed my words and let me give you 6 reasons why you should just be happy with him be

You know how jobs want you to do the work of the next level for a while before they give you the promotion? Well, a lot of men are like that too. Somehow, it’s easier for us to start looking for a better job and/or tell the job to kiss it than it is for us to do with our significant others. It’s completely understandable. There are no emotional ties to our jobs (for the most part) and it’s easier to see the benefits of going elsewhere. With our men it’s a different ball game

It’s that time of year again where everybody has “resolutions” they just KNOW they will follow in the new year and people they just KNOW they won’t associate with in the new year. Okay… cool. I’ve learned to stay away from blanket statements and to just be better than I was the year before. When coming up with resolutions, the number one thing to remember is to not make it dependent on anyone except YOU. Any resolution you make should solely be for and about YOU, so here’s my

Nobody likes homework, but this is a good “assignment”. Most of us think we are automatically ready to be in the relationship of our dreams just because we want it. We sit around waiting for the man of our dreams to roll up so we can be perfect for him and live happily ever after, but… it doesn’t quite work like that. I’ve had a few relationships that made me look inward as to why I was the candidate for the f*ckery (couldn’t find a better word) I endured. This exercise is be

Millennials didn’t start ALL of the horrible dating trends, but I’ll be honest and say we’re responsible for a lot of the current ones. Honestly, it’s not completely our fault. We grew up in the age of technology and became more detached from the world than prior generations. This and some of our most influential people have lead us to continuously practice these 6 horrible millennial dating trends. SEX ON THE FIRST DATE Everything is so liberal now that if you’re conservativ

So, you met this guy and things got serious. You’re his girl, but you find out that you’re not the ONLY girl in his life. He has a woman best friend (and it’s your first time navigating a situation like this). Your knee jerk reaction is probably to get jealous and wonder what the heck is going on with them. Natural response. That won’t win you any points in the relationship department because face it… she was there first. However, YOU have his heart. This isn’t an uncommon oc

Our fathers and grandfathers had a certain type of woman in mind that fit the criteria for "wife material". She was more of a homemaker than anything and she was nurturing to him and his potential children. Decades later, millennial men are now in the position to make this decision and there seems to have been a shift in what they consider marriage material. It doesn't appear that they're looking for housewives and homemakers-- they want something more (if anything at all… bu

At some point we’ve all found ourselves holding on to a relationship because we know what it COULD be (never mind what it is in the moment). Potential—the most dangerous motivation to stay in a relationship. So, here’s how it happens… we get with a guy and he’s a little rough around the edges, but he shows effort. He’s working on perfecting his craft, starting a business, getting his credit right, or just turning his life around in general… and it’s music to our romantic litt

Now I'm sure the title of the post leads you to believe that I'm a Jezebel sympathizer and will be encouraging you to let it all hang out to get the man of your dreams. Wrong... just wrong. If you've been following me for awhile, you know me better than that by now. This post is about getting you out of your own way. Some of us are guilty of obsessively planning our relationships all the way down to how we want to be pursued. (I'm not completely judging you for that, but mayb

Although I'm an avid watcher of Insecure (HBO), I didn't cover ONE episode of the second season. Why? I had to digest it fully. Actually, I was still licking my wounds from the first season's finale. It didn't go may way (as most things don't), but I'd really identified with the main character (Issa) and she let me down. She wasn't supposed to be a cheater, and her and Lawrence's love was supposed to conquer all. (I know, I know... all roses and rainbows. When will I learn?)

We've all pretended to know more about something to impress a date, but when pretending goes wrong it can be less than impressive to your date (and maybe even a bit awkward). This football season, I"m here to help you make it through your game day date without coming off as annoying or stereotypical. Men expect women to ask dumb questions and kill the excitement of the game with their confusion.. Don't be THAT girl. I've compiled 7 terms that'll get you through the game and m

As the mother of a little boy, I started thinking of all the ways I could add value to his life and what I would need to teach him while I was pregnant. I figured the typical dad stuff was covered, but what would his dad miss that would be important for me to teach him? Then the answer hit me. One of the most important things for mom's to teach their sons is how to functionally interact with women in relationships. I know some think that it's the dad's job to do that, but if

*The following story may be based on actual events... BUT... I will neither confirm or deny.* I lay in his lap watching Game of Thrones while he wriggles his fingers through my "naps" to massage my scalp. I make a pointedly sexual observation about Drogo and he defaults to lusting after Khaleesi. Instantly I'm annoyed. (I know, I know... unfair, but hear me out). Besides being a queen, her and I have NOTHING in common, and it's not the first time he's pined for someone that l

Face it... The likelihood that you've probably curved your future husband is at least at 50%. This also means the odds of you getting married is now at around 75%. (I gave the extra 25% in the event that you realize it before he's over it). With those loosely fabricated statistics out of the way, let's get down to business. There are so many marriage stories where people meet their significant others and they are nowhere close to being the package that they imagined. Some wer

Just typing the title of this post alone has me flinching as if one of my aunts is behind me about to slap the back of my head. I grew up in a very religious family and they drilled Bible verses about relationships and everything else into my head. The one that sticks out the most says, "the man that finds a wife, finds a good thing"... (with major emphasis on FINDS... as in he finds you). I have been hearing this verse from them for as long as I could even think about maybe